Kenyada Says: I feel men cheat because of one (or both) of the following reasons: (1) selfishness and (2) pain/anger. The first reason needs no explanation. However, a woman is usually why a man cheats for the second reason (he wants to get even with you on his own terms for some apparent reason). Now, neither one of these reasons is right nor mature, but that’s just how it is. Cheating allows a man to get want he wants without dealing with anything else (i.e. emotions, explanations, divorce settlements, child support, etc.). In some cases he’s just “knocking another one down” (selfishness) and in other cases he’s genuinely seeking what he doesn’t get at home (pain/anger). In my opinion, I feel men and women will inevitably cheat for whatever reasons up until the point that they become sure of themselves and what they want in life. When you’re at that “sure” point in life you value things more and you seriously understand the consequences of messing up. That in turn makes you more willing to deal with the tough seasons of your relationship in a more mature way. MY POINT: I feel a good man is a sure man. However, a good man can be pushed away or damaged by a woman who is unsure of herself. This relationship thing will never be a one-sided battle, a man has to choose to be good to his woman and a woman has to choose be good to her man. Hope this helps.

 

The Kid Says: First of all, if it's "human nature", then all women will cheat. So for that argument to be true, it means that all women will cheat too--thus to women who say that, I ask do they believe all women will cheat? Better yet do they know from firsthand knowledge about women and their cheating ways?

 

Back to the question--not all people will cheat. There are men and women who do cheat, but there are also plenty of men and women who don't, and won't. Factors to be considering in cheating are opportunity, morals, and discipline. The less people are in situations where they CAN cheat the less they are likely to cheat. In terms of opportunities, women are presented with them a lot more...you draw your own conclusions. This brings me to the last 2 points. The more people feel remorse for their wrong doings; they are more likely to successfully pass up other opportunities. And finally, a disciplined person can keep himself to himself regardless of the situation. So the short answer is NO, all men won't cheat and yes there are plenty of good men, many of whom women pass up because of something small like the fact that he likes to hang with his boys or won't buy or do everything she wants, WHEN she wants.

 

Achu Says: I don’t think that all men cheat, nor do I believe that we are born cheaters. Maybe their upbringing, environment, or present home life has lead them in that direction to be unfaithful. To say that all men will cheat and that we are born cheaters would be an unreasonable thought. It’s not true.

 

ME163 Says: You're just joking around you don't think that for real. That train of thought by itself is self sabotage and self defeating because you're giving a sense of inevitability to a negative event happening therefore creating that reality for self. Everyone will not cheat. A blanket statement is never true. There is a such thing as a good man, but if you're looking for one and can't find one or don't see them then change your vision.

 

Jeremiah says: Most males cheat… Not all! To understand this requires a wider gaze. The desire to cheat arguably is cultivated in our animalistic stamp to reproduce… meaning the primordial urge to spread that seed. Most males in the animal kingdom do this. The issue then becomes whether or not the “man” has consciously decided to evolve beyond the common beast.   You see, a man’s kingdom must be one of the civilized and not the common savage. Walking upright means more than a physical trait, distinguishing us from primates. Metaphorically, it also reflects how you move around the world in terms of the choices you make. A man must make the decision to be honest and dedicated to his success as well as the success of his family. 

 

Cause and effect governs more of the world than we acknowledge in the day to day. Actions have reactions, even if they’re not immediate. So what a man does will undoubtedly have consequences in his life at some point. The greatest gift to mankind is volition. A man has to choose what his legacy will be. So yes, these urges may be hardwired in us in the beginning, but the mind is capable of manifesting glorious things when focused. All it really takes is the genuine desire to evolve. Once that decision is made, the rest is easy. The primitive desire to bed multiple women quickly becomes obsolete. When you really think of it, to be in a serious relationship and succumb to the urge to constantly sleep with a bunch of women is unskillful and is no doubt a sin against oneself. According to spiritual teacher and author Eckhart Tolle, The word “sin” was derived from an ancient Greek word, meaning “to miss the mark.” He goes on to say, “To sin is to miss the point of human existence.” Such a fruitless pursuit is dangerous to a man’s cause and directly threatens any empire he hopes to develop. With the eminent threat of illegitimate child birth, disease, and other forms of drama, these actions are as much a crime against himself as they are others. At most, I see this quest merely as a faze that boys go through. Men on the other hand are focused on progression. One only becomes truly a man by a rite of passage. This rite of passage only happens when a man consciously decides it, and then strives to make it so. Until this happens, he will be a boy regardless of age. And what do you expect of a boy? To think anything other than ‘boys will be boys’ is absolutely insane! I believe most women, deep down knows when their “man” is going to cheat or has already. The act of cheating itself is in no way exclusive to men. What I’ve discussed is why men embark on cheating leisurely and where it stems from. This in no way encompasses situations where a person is verbally or physically abused and winds up finding comfort in the arms of someone more tender. 

 

Lastly, the definition and comprehension of what a man is needs to be expanded as well. Providing means more than the luxuries that money can deliver. It also means providing emotional and/or spiritual support by being there when he’s needed. Protecting is not only against physical harm, but also the sanctity of the relationship and the flow of progression in the family. Not to mention being a willing participant on protecting the covenant of a marriage. Until women reach a higher level of awareness, where they’re able to recognize these invaluable traits of a man, the boys will continue to have their fun, by demonstrating their prepubescent ambitions.

 

MAC-2 Says: First, you should define cheating. My definition might differ from yours. Women outnumber men and that's a fact, so I would not say it is inevitable but the possibilities are very high that he might cheat. That doesn't mean that he doesn't love or care about you, but he had an itch that need to be scratched. There are some good men out there, but again it goes to one’s personal preferences or definition of cheating. One woman who thinks her man is a dog might be another woman's knight in shining armor.

 

Big Rick Says: It's in a man's nature to be attracted to other women; however, it's up to that man to know when to draw the line. Now, with that being said, some of us are stronger than others. Do we ever think about it? Do we act on it? Even the strongest (mindset) of us that are in healthy relationships have a vulnerable spot, but, it's up to us to say yes, or no. So, do all men cheat....no, but, do we ever think about it.....yes. There are a lot of "good men" left everywhere, but, some of us have just gotten caught up in an unhealthy, weak relationship, and guess what, there she comes, saying all the right things, looking good, listening and responding correctly, caring, etc; etc. A good man in a strong relationship most likely will not cheat, in my opinion. Everything that I mentioned above also goes for a woman.