ME163 Says: This is because society expects certain ways of life and actions out of women that are very unrealistic and childish at times. And AS FAR AS society is concerned, what is accepted for a male to do is not acceptable for a female to do. There are situations that are vice versa for males. As much as people would love to believe and it (because it sounds nice and all), men and women are still not equal on so many levels. At the same time I must add that men and women were probably ORIGINALLY created as opposite counterparts to compliment one another's shortcomings and NOT for EITHER gender to compete for superiority or equality. Somehow we all have lost touch with that whole intended concept. I doubt Isis, Nefertiti or Cleopatra were looked at as aggressive or raunchy, nor would they have been judged the way society judges the women of this day and age for things. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with it as it shows ME certainty and decisiveness and those 2 things to ME are a turn on and not an intimidation factor. As far as the mass majority of people, I feel there is a constant focus on how to make something seem NEGATIVE as opposed to trying to see the positive in just about every single solitary aspect of life. Just MY opinion though and opinions cannot be right or wrong.

The Kid Says:  Different people like different things. It’s the same reason that there are women who don't mind if the man or woman is in control and SOME other women who like to always let the man be in control. In this instance, if he doesn't always tell her what to do, then she feels some sort of way and looks elsewhere for a man that always wants to be in charge. 

Additionally, the different receptiveness of advances (by men or by women) is similar to the double standard of how men are expected (accepted) to be vulgar and loud when talking about women. But if someone (man or woman) walks past a table and sees women high-fiving and talking about what their man did to them last night, those women would be considered vulgar. 

So many situations have roots in the basic double standard that is perpetuated by both men and women. Men don't necessarily want to marry a woman who has been known to be “out there” and women don't necessarily want to hang out with women known to be "out there"; but women will marry and men will hang out with men who have known to be "out there." So it's accepted for men to be out of line and vulgar while women are shunned for being that way.

Achu Says:  It is different strokes for different folks.  There are a lot of men that prefer aggressive woman (i.e.: dominatrix). I think you can be aggressive, but do it in a tactful manner because being aggressive in the wrong way can look desperate or just too easy. Most men prefer some sort of a challenge, and if you are just laying it out like a buffet, we are thinking that a lot of people have been through that line before.

Big Rick Says: First of all, you must understand that all men aren't the same and all women aren't the same. I grew up in an era when women were treated with dignity and respect....period. I still believe the same today, and have demonstrated it to my daughters as they were growing up. Believe it or not, there are some women (and men) that enjoy being talked to in that manner that you speak of.  There are also some men that feel that they can talk the talk, but punk out when the cards are turned on them. I hear it and see it more today with the younger generation. But for the men that I know that dish it out—they enjoy hearing a woman sending it back to them in the same manner. It's an invitation! Even for the men that believe in treating a woman like a lady, we sometimes like to hear seductive comments, but I guess it depends on the severity, nature, or intent of the comment that makes it offensive enough to run us off.

Kenyada says:  I must say that this is a very interesting question … and I’ll answer your question with one simple word: POWER. It turns men on when they feel powerful. Therefore, when that man asks for sex in any way he wants and he’s still successful at getting sex, he feels powerful. When a man puts it down in the bedroom and sees that look on your face afterwards he feels powerful. That “power” feeling is a very addictive thing and men tend to hold on to it with a very firm grip. Therefore, when you become the aggressor with a “power driven” man he may become immediately uncomfortable solely because he’s not in control (and this can be the case even if he likes/loves you). The desire to keep power or obtain the feeling of power is at the root of many issues or situations. Unfortunately, because of this aggressiveness, women have been labeled as out of line, vulgar, unladylike, etc. because they’re not operating within the requirements or restrictions of a certain man’s power. However, the ultimate power is given to that man who is comfortable with himself. This type of man is more flexible and balanced and definitely willing to give power to his woman if needed. 

GeekQuotient aka GQ Says:  This questions opens up two scenarios. For Couples:  If so it's all about communication. Have you discussed what each others' desires are for sex play?  In a relationship, it's not fair for me to say, "Honey why am I always the one who initiates the moves to have sex?" when I have never discussed this or made it clear in the relationship this is what I want. Sitting down with your man in an intimate setting and asking him if he feels ok with you being the aggressor may solve this issue. Let him know what your sexual desires are, ask him what turns him on.  We are all adults right? If he is not mature enough to have this talk and you feel it is important at this point in the relationship to clarify it and he wont, move on. Sex and being intimate as well as changing things up and being creative and fun can bring new life and add a spark to what now my be a mundane humdrum "get along". Personally, when in a relationship if she pursues me and is aggressive it turns me on. However, it is how the woman does it. Remember the song by Prince "If I was your girl-friend" Men want it too. Bottom line if you are in a relationship talk about your desires.  HINT: In this talk DO NOT use the words "you never" or "you always" these are fighting words.  Now for Singles at a bar:  If you feel safe being aggressive then go for it and keep asking until one of the men says yes.  HOWEVER, most men are not use to playing the game this way because, in my opinion, they may feel the woman is  up to something. In every situation where I was hit on by a woman in a bar, when playing the bar scene, it was usually because she just wanted free drinks nothing else. Best of life and love and go get your GEEK on or your FREAK on, just be you.