I’m reading a book called The Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks this week. A very fascinating book with compelling concepts about the laws of the universe and how each of us is able to attract everything we could ever possibly want in life through giving [the object of our desire] our full attention. This is an amazing concept to me—very enlightening. As I am reading chapter by chapter, I can’t help but to ponder a compliment given early in the reading by a spiritual guide to Esther and Jerry as they were seeking guidance on the best way to meditate in order to stimulate vibration and bring their desires to them. This spiritual guide highly recommended that they meditate together and followed with the compliment,

“Because you are compatible, it will be more powerful.”

Their spiritual guide recommended that they place an emphasis on meditating together, not because it saved time, helped them to focus, or anything else. He said it was because they were compatible. And in being compatible—their meditation would be more powerful. I had chills. This one short sentence really stayed with me as I progressed in my reading. So much that I kept going back to read it. I even went on a search for the real definition for the word compatibility. I mean, wouldn’t you? Don’t you want to know if you are really compatible with someone and if what you have is almost, “powerful?”

 Thanks to wordreference.com, I came across this definition: able to exist and perform in harmonious or agreeable combination. In looking deep into the heart of relationships, doesn’t this make you ask yourself, “isn’t this really what relationships are all about?” Isn’t this really what we’ve been seeking? Aren’t we looking to find someone in which we are able to exist and perform in harmonious or agreeable combination? Absolutely! I’m in harmony right now just thinking about it.

So, why not take it to the next level! Imagine sitting next to a person you’ve been dating for a little while, say a month or so. Both of you are sitting on the couch and having a good time while laughing and joking. Having fun is what you’ve been doing for the last month and you both appear to be very content with this. All of a sudden, you decide to look over at him (or her) and you say, “I’m enjoying your company, but are we compatible?” You take it even further and say, “we are passionate for one another, we share such great energy, but-are-we-compatible?

What do you think his answer would be?

What would your answer be?

Questions like that really force two would be romantics to start to think more realistically. With all of this talk about romance, passion, happily ever afters and don’t forget the lovely soul mates notion, are we forgetting what really lasts? Although it would be a nice thought to believe that a couple can truly experience romance and passion everyday for the rest of their lives, it’s not realistic. Research has shown that those things don’t last. And when the truth is revealed  about your passion, romance, and chemistry, one may start to disbelieve yet another false truth regarding the existence of soul-mates. Maybe this is a necessary evil as you grow and mature in your relationship. But why does one even have to go thought that when instead you are able to have something more powerful (if you are seeking it). Something like Ester and Jerry Hicks were complimented in having—compatibility and as a result--power. Perhaps this is a secret that companies like Chemistry.com, Match.com and E-Harmony.com all have built their million-dollar empires on.  

So if you are ever at odds with whether or not to continue a relationship based on the fire you feel between one another, just remember that although opposites attract, studies have proven that those who have more in common typically stay together longer. Seek only what lasts. Everything else is a bonus!

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