Have you ever seen yourself through the eyes of someone else? This is what it means by placing yourself in someone else's shoes.  You try and understand their perspective of you. If that person, or enough people, perceive you to be a certain way, have you ever stopped to ask if you are actually giving them reason to. This is not always the easiest thing to do. If enough people called you dramatic, perhaps should take a second to ask yourself what you are doing to cause this reaction. You see, when I look at myself I see my intentions, not my actions. When others see me, they see my actions and not my intentions. Someone helped me to understand this notion on the other day and I wanted to share it with you.

If you want to truly see yourself through the eyes of another person, get in a relationship. There are few better ways to see you. Whether romantic or platonic, allow someone to be connected to you for a while. I wonder what others can teach us about ourselves. If my actions and my intentions are not aligned, what I think of myself will probably be very different than what others think of me. Yes, what you think of yourself is more important than what others think of you. Although this is an enlightened way of living your life, you also always want to pay attention to what you are exuding and how you are exuding it. You may love being truthful to others, but at the same time, you may not even realize that you are being offensive while sharing your truth. You may not realize that what you are saying is getting lost in how you are saying it.  When you take a moment to truly see yourself through someone else's eyes, you are better able to align your intent (to be truthful) with your action (saying your truth).Whenever you are in a relationship, take the time out to learn what images of yourself you are showcasing.

So, Girlfriends, there is good to taking the time out to really walk in someone else's shoes as the old adage says. You may learn a new perspective about yourself. You may learn that the housecleaning you thought you did was not yet finished. And those are the things that we strive to learn as we clean up our acts so that we truly start attracting what we want in our lives.